The trick is to focus on the response. Look at the heroes.
"Someone knows who did this."
Those were the words of a special investigator the FBI has assigned to the Boston Marathon bombings.
After the blasts ripped through the finish line at the iconic sporting event Monday, Americans have felt fear, fury and frustration.
The fear is to be expected. Whoever did this wanted to elicit that emotion. They didn't want us to feel safe anywhere. What event can you attend where two duffle bags couldn't be dropped that would change your life forever? The families of the three victims who died and hundreds who were injured or affected had no reason to doubt their safety Monday. Now, we all do.
The fury is also a normal response. Some people have expressed shock at humanity's ability to harm. Little girls with nails embedded in their bodies and eight-year-old boys dying for no reason make perfect excuses to become angry.
But that anger can be dissipated easily. The trick is to focus on the response. Look at the heroes. Look at the people who ran toward the dangerous situation to help those who needed them even though more bombs could have been exploding any moment.
Another great way to overcome anxiety and anger is to do something yourself. Send a legitimate group $10 if that is all you have. Send more if you can.
If you don't have money, volunteer at a local event to help make people in your area feel safer when they attend events that should be celebrated rather than skipped due to safety concerns.
The best way to make the world a better place is by doing something – anything – to make it better.
The frustration comes from not knowing who did this. Was it a terror group from another country? Was it a home-grown terrorist? It could have been one idiot with access to free wifi and enough money to buy a couple of pressure cookers and some hardware supplies to use as projectiles.
A couple of days after 9/11, we knew who the attackers were thanks to airline records and intelligence work. The main Oklahoma City bombing suspect was in custody only a few hours after the bomb went off.
But there are no records to track this attacker. And unfortunately, some idiot redneck didn't flee on a main highway with an expired tag on his get-away car like Timothy McVeigh did.
But the person who did this had to have stood out a little bit. Those duffle bags would have been heavy with all of the explosives and projectiles inside. It seems like someone would have a memory of a person lugging them around.
Plus, there have to be thousands of photos and videos from the area. The suspect is on at least one of them.
It may take some time, but I expect a suspect – or group of suspects – to be found and brought to justice.
I just hope this doesn't lead us into another war or create another "terrorist holiday" like Ruby Ridge and Waco did that will lead to more attacks in the future.
People die every day. More people died in a Pennsylvania man's apparent suicide attempt, when he started his car in the garage and killed himself and three family members, than in the Boston Marathon bombings.
But the bombs affect us all. We can never eliminate the possibility that the event we attend could be the next one targeted.
All we can do is enjoy our lives the best we can. And we can support the victims of these senseless attacks to help them enjoy theirs again, as well.
Kent Bush is the publisher of the Augusta Gazette, the El Dorado Times, and the Andover American newspapers. He can be contacted at: firstname.lastname@example.org